Being The Skinny Girl: Skinny-Shaming Is Real

Being the skinny girl, the reality of skinny shamingI’ve been skinny most of my life. But a few years ago, I became even thinner due to illness. Since then, I’ve struggled to gain back the weight that I had lost. At five feet two inches, my weight hovers around 95 pounds, I usually have to get belts from the children’s section. Until this happened to me, I never realized that skinny shaming existed.

Most people don’t realize what they’re doing when they skinny shame someone (although some do, personally I experienced people spreading rumors that I had become anorexic). Phrases like ‘You’re a twig’, ‘You have no butt’, and ‘You’re so lucky to be skinny, I wish I was your size’ can actually be hurtful. Why is that you ask?

Today’s culture is plastered with phrases like ‘real women have curves’. So am I not a real woman? When there are campaigns for women to accept that their bodies are beautiful, they show pictures of women who have a little extra weight, rarely, if ever, showing an underweight woman. Do I not need encouragement to accept my body?

Not only are skinny girls excluded from ‘everyone is beautiful’ campaigns, but we are often judged for looking the way we do. People assume that we starve ourselves, or that we must exercise excessively. They assume that we don’t enjoy eating and that we look down upon those that do.

Things like this couldn’t be farther from the truth. I love eating. But my body loses weight much more easily than it gains. I don’t starve myself or excessively exercise (in fact, I rarely workout consistently). I simply have a medical problem that makes it hard for me to be at a healthy weight. Yet most people don’t bother to think there’s anything behind what meets the eye.

That’s exactly where all of these believing you’re beautiful campaigns started: trying to overcome the judgement of others. Well, I have something to say to everyone:

We are all beautiful. Thick and thin, tall and short. All of us, every single one, possesses beauty. We need so badly to stop looking to others for our validation and accept it for the truth that it is.

Now that that’s out of the way, I also need to point out that working to achieve your desired body proportions (within reason of course) doesn’t mean that you haven’t accepted yourself. It just means that you want to make something great even greater!

In my life, this means that I’m actively taking steps to get to a health weight.

I’m focusing on fueling my body.

Increasing my calories is the only weight to put on some pounds, but I’m making sure that they’re healthy calories.  Organic fruits, vegetables, and grass-fed meats all frequent my plate.

I’m exercising the right way for my body type.

Since weight gain is the goal, I make sure to stay away from cardio (unless it’s walking). Instead, I do muscle building exercises to help put on muscle weight. Things like squats and lunges are the way to go.

I make it fun.

I think we can all agree that things that aren’t fun to do, are a whole lot harder to stick with, am I right? So if I need to eat more food even though I’m stuffed, I try to make it something I like eating. If I need to make myself exercise, I do it to some awesome music or while watching my favorite shows.

I’m going to say it one more time so that you remember, okay?

We are all beautiful.

Tell me how you’re doing with believing you’re beautiful, let’s support each other in the comments below. I would love to hear your story!

If you want to know more about inner beauty, read this post. Don’t forget to pin or tweet and spread the ‘beautiful’ word!

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  1. Honestly, all shaming needs to stop. I’m pretty sure only 1% of the female population is comfortable in their own skin and/or doesn’t compare themselves to everyone else around them. I just listened to “Tell me I’m Fat” on This American Life, and the shaming exists on all levels, sometimes blatant and sometimes not. Skinny shaming is totally real. I can’t stand how there’s this small range of size we are all expected to fit in, either we’re all overweight/obese, or we’re trying too hard and malnourished. That includes those who aren’t trying to change themselves. People don’t know how your body holds food and how much you eat or exercise. It’s ridiculous and no one else’s business.
    *gets off soapbox*
    Thank you for sharing your story!

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